Last Mother's Day, I saw a tweet from a friend that expressed what a difficult day it was for her. I wasn't sure why since she is a devoted mother to children who love her. It was only when I saw the post she linked to that I understood. She may be a fantastic example of motherhood, but her own mother was not.
My heart ached for this friend and others like her who did not receive the acceptance and love they so desperately needed from their parents. They were judged and belittled by adults who never viewed them as "enough." From the people that should have loved them unconditionally.
It can make family history research daunting if you're not sure what you'll uncover beyond your own hurt-filled past.
As I was pondering my friend's situation, I saw an episode of Generations Project on BYUtv. Twins, Pj and Heidi, were abused by their father after their mother passed away. The fear of what they might uncover on their father's line was almost too much for Pj to handle. Luckily, she had a sensitive genealogist to help guide her through how incredibly happy, smart, and humorous her ancestors actually were.
We are more than our circumstances. We are more than our immediate family. If you didn't have the greatest example of a parent, look for that example further down the line. Connecting with our ancestors and knowing their talents, abilities, and personalities can provide our hearts with personal heroes. You'll find love and acceptance in your family tree.
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